A Course on Grief.
Still here. Still carrying it. Now learning to hold it differently.
The stage model of grief, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance, is the most widely taught framework for loss. It is also, in the most important ways, wrong. And the wrongness has caused a great deal of damage.
The work beneath
A Course on Grief.
Grief is not a sequence you complete. It is the mind and body learning how to live in a world changed by loss.
The stage model of grief, denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance, is the most widely taught framework for loss. It is also, in the most important ways, wrong. And the wrongness has caused a great deal of damage.
5 Modules. 19 Lessons
Each module is a place to understand one layer more clearly. Move slowly. Let the language meet the part of your life that has needed more care, more honesty, and a more hopeful way forward.
Move beyond rigid stage models and understand grief as attachment, prediction, identity and layered loss.
Recognise the nervous-system and body effects of loss, and learn gentle ways to support capacity.
Work with anger, guilt, fear and the deeper meanings that loss can uncover.
Distinguish processing from rumination, release artificial timelines and prepare for returning waves.
Create a continuing bond, rebuild identity and develop an ongoing practice for a life that still includes love.
A Course on Grief.
Still here. Still carrying it. Now learning to hold it differently.
Start the Course, Included with MembershipFrequently asked
Is the five-stage model of grief accurate?
No, and the course opens with this. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross developed the stage model observing terminally ill patients facing their own death, not bereaved survivors. It was never intended as a universal sequence for grief. The damage the model has caused is specific: it creates the expectation that grief should move in a direction, and that if you are not progressing, you are failing. This course offers a more accurate framework.
What does grief integration mean?
Integration means carrying the loss differently: incorporating it into your life in a way that allows you to function, to feel joy, to be present, not completing or finishing the grief. The loss remains; the relationship to it changes. This is different from 'getting over' or 'moving on', which imply a kind of erasure that most grieving people find both inaccurate and painful.
Is this course appropriate if my loss is recent?
The course is appropriate across the grief timeline, including recent loss. It does not expect you to be further along than you are. However, if the loss is very recent and the grief is acute, working with a therapist or grief counsellor alongside this course is recommended. This course is educational support, not clinical treatment.
Can this course help with grief that is years old?
Yes, and many people find it particularly useful for grief that has never been properly processed. Grief that has been carried for years without adequate support often benefits most from the framework this course provides: understanding why it has persisted, what has been complicated about it, and what integration at this stage looks like.
A course by Olivia Fox, founder of My Inner Foundation. She writes about what she has lived, worked through herself, and sat with in others, translating real inner work and years of supporting people through these exact struggles into language that is precise, honest, and genuinely useful.
Written with care
A gentle note before you begin
My Inner Foundation courses are educational and reflective. They are not therapy, diagnosis, medical advice, or crisis support. If you are in immediate danger or need urgent mental-health support, please contact local emergency services or a qualified professional.