You did not choose a life this full by accident. Somewhere along the way you learned that if you stopped moving, something would catch up.
What noise protects you from
The unsaid thing. The grief you have not made time for. The version of your life you are performing rather than living. Noise is not innocent. It is doing a job.
Solitude is not withdrawal
It is a return. To breath, to preference, to the small honesties that only surface when nothing else is competing for your attention. You do not need a cabin. You need thirty minutes without input.
You are not lonely. You are unpracticed at being alone without the audience of yourself.
Begin small. One walk without a podcast. One meal without a screen. One evening in which the only voice in the room is yours.
Frequently asked
- Is solitude the same as loneliness?
- No. Loneliness is being cut off from connection you want. Solitude is a chosen return to your own company, and it is one of the few conditions in which the honest layer of you can surface.
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