5 Modules · Self-Paced

Attachment, Wounding, and the Path Back to Security.

A course on how you love and why.

Before you knew what love was, your nervous system was already learning what it felt like. Whether it arrived reliably or unpredictably, whether closeness was safe or dangerous. That learning is still running. This course works with it directly.

5Modules
Self-Paced
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Not as a label but as a lived understanding: what fires in your body and your behaviour when closeness is sought or threatened.Know your attachment pattern with precision
Trace the relational history that produced your current style, with accuracy and without using the understanding as an excuse for the pattern.Understand where it came from
Understand what changes attachment style: the kind of experiences, relationships, and practices that update the nervous system's expectations.Develop earned security
People who recognise a consistent pattern in how they behave in intimate relationshipsThis may be for you
Anyone who wants to understand why the same dynamics keep recurring with different peopleThis may be for you
What this course helps you explore
People who recognise a consistent pattern in how they behave in intimate relationships Anyone who wants to understand why the same dynamics keep recurring with different people People who find closeness either irresistible and frightening, or desirable and intolerable Anyone who wants to become more available in love: not perform closeness, but practise it more honestly Know your attachment pattern with precision Understand where it came from Develop earned security Love more consciously
The Premise

The work beneath
Attachment, Wounding, and the Path Back to Security.

This course is designed to help you slow the pattern down, understand what is happening underneath it, and begin practising a steadier, kinder way forward. It does not ask you to become someone else. It helps you return to yourself with more clarity, language, and choice.

Before you knew what love was, your nervous system was already learning what it felt like. Whether it arrived reliably or unpredictably, whether closeness was safe or dangerous. That learning is still running. This course works with it directly.
The Course

5 Modules. Self-paced lessons

Each module is a place to understand one layer more clearly. Move slowly. Let the language meet the part of your life that has needed more care, more honesty, and a more hopeful way forward.

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Module 1
Secure Attachment

What security actually looks and feels like in adult relationships, and how it can be built at any age through consistent experience, regardless of how it started.

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Module 2
Anxious Attachment

The hypervigilant relational strategy: always reading the room, seeking reassurance, unable to settle. Where it came from, what drives it, and what changes it.

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Module 3
Avoidant Attachment

The self-sufficient relational strategy: genuinely wanting closeness while being designed to prevent it. How the distance is maintained, and what it is protecting against.

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Module 4
Disorganised Attachment

When the source of safety and the source of fear were the same person. The most complex of the attachment patterns, and the one that most requires professional support alongside self-knowledge.

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Module 5
How to Love Differently

The actual work of moving toward security: the practices, the new experiences, the relationships that provide corrective evidence. Not a quick route but a real one.

Begin when you are ready

Attachment, Wounding, and the Path Back to Security.

A course on how you love and why.

Start the Course — Included with Membership

Included with your My Inner Foundation membership.

Common Questions

Frequently asked

What are the four attachment styles?

The four attachment styles — secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganised (or fearful-avoidant) — describe different ways the nervous system has learned to manage connection and the threat of losing it. Secure attachment develops when early caregiving is consistently responsive. The other three develop when caregiving is inconsistent, emotionally unavailable, or frightening. This course covers all four, including how each operates in adult relationships.

Can my attachment style change?

Yes. Attachment styles are not fixed personality types. They are learned patterns that the nervous system acquired through experience. They update through experience as well: through consistently responsive relationships (therapeutic or otherwise), through accumulated corrective experience, and through the specific kind of self-understanding this course provides.

What is anxious attachment?

Anxious attachment develops in relationships where caregiving was inconsistent, sometimes warm and responsive, sometimes unavailable. The child learns that connection is possible but unreliable, producing a hypervigilant monitoring of relational signals in adulthood. Anxiously attached adults often experience their relationships as perpetually at risk and require significant reassurance.

What is avoidant attachment?

Avoidant attachment develops when expressions of need were consistently met with dismissal or emotional unavailability. The adaptation is self-sufficiency: learning not to need. In adult relationships, avoidantly attached people experience discomfort with emotional closeness and tend to withdraw under relational pressure. The course covers both the internal experience and the relational dynamic this produces.

My Inner Foundation
Olivia Fox

A course by Olivia Fox, founder of My Inner Foundation. She writes about what she has lived, worked through herself, and sat with in others, translating real inner work and years of supporting people through these exact struggles into language that is precise, honest, and genuinely useful.

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A gentle note before you begin

My Inner Foundation courses are educational and reflective. They are not therapy, diagnosis, medical advice, or crisis support. If you are in immediate danger or need urgent mental-health support, please contact local emergency services or a qualified professional.

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