When Your Child’s Feelings Trigger Yours.
Stay connected when their emotions wake up your own.
The moment that feels like a problem with your child is sometimes also a meeting with your own history. This course helps parents separate the present child from the old alarm, regulate before responding, and repair without shame.
The work beneath
When Your Child’s Feelings Trigger Yours.
This course is designed to help you understand the psychology underneath ordinary family moments and turn that understanding into practical action. It is not about perfect parenting. It is about creating patterns that are safer, clearer, and more useful over time.
The moment that feels like a problem with your child is sometimes also a meeting with your own history. This course helps parents separate the present child from the old alarm, regulate before responding, and repair without shame.
5 Modules. 15 practical lessons
Each lesson combines accessible psychology, a realistic family example, a word-for-word response, reflection, and one practical step to use at home.
Understand how present behaviour can activate old emotional learning. Learn to treat activation as a signal rather than a command. Separate your child’s developmental behaviour from people who hurt or dismissed you.
Recognise fight, flight, freeze, and appease patterns in parenting moments. Build a practical pause between activation and action. Use containment when you cannot genuinely feel calm.
Unpack why ordinary testing can feel like a threat to your role. Notice when a child’s preference for another parent becomes personal pain. Understand why repeated demands can awaken feelings of entrapment.
Replace rapid correction with one useful question. Hold limits without withdrawal, humiliation, or frightening intensity. Use accountable repair to restore safety and model responsibility.
Create a personalised plan for the moments that recur. Stop requiring emotional agreement before connection can return. Measure progress by recovery, honesty, and repetition rather than perfect calm.
When Your Child’s Feelings Trigger Yours.
Stay connected when their emotions wake up your own.
Start the Course — Included with MembershipFrequently asked
Is this a behaviour-management course? +
No. It includes practical responses, but its main work is relational and psychological: understanding what the family system is teaching and building safer, more useful patterns.
Will this work for different ages? +
Yes. The principles apply across childhood. The examples focus mainly on young and middle childhood, with guidance that can be adapted as children become more independent.
Does this mean there should be no consequences? +
No. Clear boundaries and proportionate consequences are part of secure parenting. The course shows how to hold them without shame, humiliation, fear, or unnecessary escalation.
What is the format? +
Fully written, self-paced, membership access. Five modules and fifteen lessons, with a reflection and practical application in every lesson.
Is this a replacement for therapy or professional safeguarding advice? +
No. The course is educational. Serious risk, abuse, persistent distress, or safety concerns require qualified professional support and the appropriate local safeguarding response.
A course by Olivia Fox, founder of My Inner Foundation. Written to translate complex emotional and developmental ideas into language parents can use in real homes, during real moments, without requiring perfection.
Written with care
A gentle note before you begin
My Inner Foundation courses are educational and reflective. They are not therapy, diagnosis, medical advice, or crisis support. Safety, abuse, serious mental-health concerns, or persistent functional difficulties require appropriate qualified support.