Where Are You Actually Spending Yourself?
A course on the invisible expenditure.
Most people track their time. Almost nobody tracks where their actual energy goes. The gap between those two ledgers is where the exhaustion lives: the invisible costs that do not appear in any schedule but may contribute to how depleted you feel.
The work beneath
Where Are You Actually Spending Yourself?
This course is designed to help you slow the pattern down, understand what is happening underneath it, and begin practising a steadier, kinder way forward. It does not ask you to become someone else. It helps you return to yourself with more clarity, language, and choice.
Most people track their time. Almost nobody tracks where their actual energy goes. The gap between those two ledgers is where the exhaustion lives: the invisible costs that do not appear in any schedule but may contribute to how depleted you feel.
6 Modules. Self-paced lessons
Each module is a place to understand one layer more clearly. Move slowly. Let the language meet the part of your life that has needed more care, more honesty, and a more hopeful way forward.
The difference between a time audit and an energy audit, and why an hour doing something misaligned costs more than three hours doing something that matters.
The costs that appear nowhere on any to-do list: the open decisions being held, the unspoken truths, the emotional labour of managing other people's states, the chronic misalignment between values and activity.
An honest, non-judgmental inventory of the relational energy landscape: who genuinely restores you, who depletes you, and what you owe each.
Every role you occupy costs energy to maintain. Some roles fit; some quietly cost more than they return. This module works with the gap between the roles you hold and the person holding them.
Physical and digital environments that chronically activate the threat system, versus ones that allow genuine rest. The underestimated cost of spending your days in spaces that keep you on guard.
Not adding more restoration to an unchanged drain, but removing the leaks, and building a life where the energy expenditure is chosen rather than accumulated by default.
Where Are You Actually Spending Yourself?
A course on the invisible expenditure.
Start the Course, Included with MembershipFrequently asked
What is an energy audit?
An energy audit here means a reflective record of activities, relationships, demands and perceived energy. It may help you notice patterns and consider priorities, but it is not a measurement of physiological energy or a medical assessment of fatigue.
How is this different from time management?
Time management assumes your energy is uniformly available within the hours you have. An energy audit recognises that an hour with the wrong person costs more than an hour with the right one, and that some activities replenish while others deplete, regardless of the time involved. Managing your energy, not just your time, produces a fundamentally different kind of sustainability.
Is this relevant if I'm not currently burnt out?
Yes. You can use the reflection questions to notice demands, routines and available support before you feel exhausted. The exercise cannot assess or prevent burnout or explain persistent fatigue; seek qualified advice for symptoms that concern you.
What will I be able to do after completing this course?
Identify your specific energy costs, people, environments, roles, and activities, with compassion and precision; recognise the difference between productive tiredness and depletion; understand what replenishes your specific system; and make decisions about how you spend your time based on energy cost, not just clock time.
A course by Olivia Fox, founder of My Inner Foundation. She writes about what she has lived, worked through herself, and sat with in others, translating real inner work and years of supporting people through these exact struggles into language that is precise, honest, and genuinely useful.
Written with care
A gentle note before you begin
My Inner Foundation courses are educational and reflective. They are not therapy, diagnosis, medical advice, or crisis support. If you are in immediate danger or need urgent mental-health support, please contact local emergency services or a qualified professional.